Advice I Wish I Was Given

Sometimes I get the weirdest thoughts in my head. A couple of nights ago I was thinking about this blog, how much I have done absolutely nothing with it, and what direction was this to go in, if it was going to go into any direction at all.

I began to think about this blog's beginnings. How much I have changed, how much my relationship to Sailorman has changed, and how I sometimes I wish I could go back four years (has it really been four years?!) and give myself advice.

I began to think of a list of advice I'd give myself.

1. Communication is key. Not just the being able to talk for five hours straight, though that's great too. You're lucky to have found someone that you can talk to for hours and hours and hours without being bored. That being said, talking about nothing builds a relationship that isn't based on much. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache down the road by dealing with the hard conversations (relatively) early in the relationship.
2. Know your limits. Don't try to become what someone thinks you should be. If they wanted a Stepford wife, they'd find a mail order bride. Being who you are is the whole reason that he loves you. Don't lose yourself and your values just because he doesn't have the exact same ones.
3. Speak up. You've always been known for being outspoken. Even though you do mellow out with age, (as if 24 is all that old) know that you are allowed to have opinions. In fact, it's sexier when you do.
4. Be happy. That's really the ultimate goal right? Enjoy the life you have, and don't worry so much.


I'm lucky that I figured all of these things out for myself eventually. Some might think that I was a little too late with it, but in the end it all worked itself out. I've gained perspective in what's important and what's not. Who's important and who's not. I'm glad that I've created an environment for myself where I am stress free and able to just be.